Have you ever been in a situation where people began speaking about others who were not there? Or in a conversation where people began saying inappropriate things that made you uncomfortable?
It’s more than that, however. It’s nice to have people think well of me, but really this is about feeling good in my own skin. I simply don’t want to be in a conversation where people are talking about someone who is not there. Therefore, I need to learn how to either leave, change the topic, or better yet, state that I am uncomfortable speaking about that person. Above all, I can't be this type of conversation starter.
If this is so important to me, am I willing to stand in my values, watch my words and speak up for the person who is absent? So, the question is, am I willing to stand in my values? Are they more than a list of important things? Do I actually have the courage live them even in the difficult times? If my values are respect of others, of maintaining the dignity of others and of recognizing that all people are of value...then the true test of whether or not these really are my values is to live them.